40 days of mum


Summer is a state of mind. Unknown

School breaks up this week and I don’t know about you but gone are the days when this is cause for entirely gleeful celebration. I tiptoe towards the holidays with trepidation. Much as I look forward to the idea of more time with my son, like most parents I also feel a sense of gathering doom. 

Like the Biblical trials (think Jesus in the desert, Noah and his Ark, Moses), this summer holiday is 40 days (and nights) long: 40 days of juggling the entertainment, sorting out the children’s arguments, mealtimes, moaning, late bed times, with being professional, showing up at work and generally getting stuff done.

But take a deep breath. Summer isn’t a form of celestial punishment for parents. Everything is a matter of perspective, choices and, in this case, a bit of organisation. 

Rather than seeing this summer as a trial, let’s revert to celebration and treat these 40 days as an opportunity. 

These 40 days are a chance to have fun with your children (of course), to enjoy the weather (we can only hope) and the long days. They are also a chance to carve out time and headspace for yourself, and to gain a new perspective on your career (all good biblical trials end with renewal).  

Think of them as 40 days of mum.

I often hear from mums about the challenge of losing their identities and sense of self. Our needs and desires can easily fall to the end of the long list of tasks involved in raising children. Slowly but surely our identities as individuals (who also happen to be mothers) are eroded, replaced with ‘Sam’s mum’.

It is easy to see how, when it comes to our careers, we lose sight of what we genuinely want. Our choices become a function of what we feel we ought to do, logistics (the commute’s better) and ‘what works’ for now.

Over the 40 days of the holidays, I’ll be challenging you to regain your sense of self through a spot of self-discovery.

I’ll be sharing ideas, tips and thoughts on how to have a break over the summer (it is possible) and enjoy your children, while also using the time to refresh your thinking about your ambitions and the direction you want to head in next. You’ll be raring to go when the kids return to school in September.

You’re going to have fun, learn about yourself and get some clarity about your career. What’s not to love! To get started why don’t you join the conversation and tell me your biggest concerns this summer?